This happens. In fact, it happens often. I try not to talk about or mention the accident I was involved in too much to anyone anymore. I do not want a pity party and I do not want people to think differently about me. I want people to see me for who I am today, not for something that happened to me almost four years ago. I do not want to be defined by it and therefore I almost try to avoid it sometimes. However, me trying to “run” away from it does not exactly work because I know that G-d saved me for a reason. I know that many people are often inspired when I tell them. Yet, I do not want it to be a defining factor. It seems that G-d has blessed me with that.
Anyways, I was having dinner with a friend tonight who brought it up. I had not mentioned it and almost had avoided it but this friend brought it up. I do not have a problem talking about it, in fact its quite the opposite. When I shared even the briefest bit of my story this friend then mentioned that anything he had that he thought was bad was nothing in comparison. This is what I mean. This is what happens.
What do I have to say about it? We almost all go through something “tragic” or hard which tests our limits and helps us to grow stronger. It shapes our lives. It becomes part of who we are. But, it doesn’t have to define us. It also doesn’t have to be some crazy bad fatal freak accident in order to be hard. Just because my friend didn’t go through the same type of hardship, it doesn’t make it less difficult or less crazy. It was hard for their life and for their circumstances. Just like my situation was challenging for me. This is one of those cases that I think is very much relative as I believe G-d only hands us what He knows we can handle.